The cry of domestic rampage

Published in The voice of youth on  9 December 2011

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The cry of domestic rampage

Posted in Social Issues on 09. Dec, 2011

By Noor-ul-Ain Hanif

The womb of a mother that nurtures and protects a baby before coming in this world, the better half that carries the half burden of husband’s life, the beloved women who offers her shoulder in times of sadness, the delicate and tender hands of a sister that manages the house in absence of a mother. Faces keep changing in life but the gender remains the same. Yes, its a woman!

The kind heart in a soft body best defines a woman and some people take advantage of this quality. Being the weaker sex, woman faces a lot of difficulties and misfortunes in her life from childhood to maturity. In childhood, she is unaware of the unnecessary touching of choori wala, ice-cream wala or dukan wala and in mature age, she is aware of everything but can’t do anything. A number of bills against women harassment and violence have been passed in the past, but a rural woman. a victim of domestic violence is still fighting for life and freedom.

According to the website www.humanillnesses.com,

“Violence is the use of physical force to injure people or property. Violence may cause physical pain to those who experience it directly, as well as emotional distress to those who either experience or witness it.”

The definition of women violence is not much different to that of the actual definition of violence. The only difference is that weaker sex mostly experiences the harsh actions due to the unaware and illiterate behavior of stronger sex that is man.

The UN Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women (1993) states that

 “violence against women is a manifestation of historically unequal power relations between men and women, which have led to domination over and discrimination against women by men and to the prevention of the full advancement of women, and that violence against women is one of the crucial social mechanisms by which women are forced into a subordinate position compared with men.”

Violence against women include: domestic violence, physical abuse, sexual abuse and rape in intimate relationships; psychological and emotional abuse, femicid, sexual abuse of children and adolescent, forced prostitution and sex-selective abortions.

While discussing women violence, domestic violence over women should be highlighted and given a wider space. Violence starts from home. It may be by parents, husband or another woman. It’s true a woman is mostly alleged of doing violence over another woman. She may be present in the face of sister-in-law or mother-in-law or any other lady. Women usually experience domestic violence over dowry issues, jealousy issues or other house hold problems. But now, the violence has taken a new turn, as black magic is also involved in it. The women with shaky believes usually go to the babas to get rid of other women. Another major reason of violence is having a girl in womb. The discrimination of girl and boy is destroying our society and a number of women have been burnt or strangled to death for giving birth to a girl.

Mostly husbands consider their right to abuse or beat up wives so that the wife can’t dominate. Such illiterate views ruin their married life. Their kids also suffer the consequences and creates a negative impact on their minds. According to the study of PhD student Naima Hassan, the Applied Psychology Department of the Punjab University,

“Most husbands consider abusing or even beating up wives their right many justifying the abuse by arguing that their wives do not hold their in-laws in esteem or lack warmth in lovemaking”

Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence with reference to Ansar Burney Trust,

“According to estimates – as many as 70 percent of women in Pakistan experience domestic violence. This violence can range from beatings, to sexual violence or torture, to broken bones and very serious injury caused by pouring of acid or burning the victim alive.”

Domestic violence can be very brutal and lethal. A woman should take an action at an early step before it’s too late. She can inform her parents and if it doesn’t work out then she can get help and support from women NGOS working in Pakistan. A number of bills have also been passed by the National Assembly in order to save women from the horrible violence. The only drawback is that the brutal assailant is later released on bail. Women do protest against the bail out of such men, but it is the men who eventually dominate the society.

Knowledge is power. Only education can change the present scenario.

According to Hazrat Ali (A.S),

"Knowledge and practice are twins, and both go together. There is no knowledge without practice, and no practice without knowledge."

Seek knowledge, spread knowledge and kindly use knowledge in taking your decision in the light, because knowledge will never let you down.

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